![]() It’s not about being naked 24/7 and getting home to strip off. At the time, I was living with my grandfather and it wasn’t until I moved out, that I became freer. It became a social event to head down to the beach together after work. It wasn’t until I left school and started working in a hotel back in Perth, that I met a group that would go to a nude beach. I had very low self-esteem in school and very low body confidence. It wasn’t practiced specifically, but there was no worry in jumping out of the shower and going downstairs naked. But like parenting teaches us, you’re not always going to get it right.Ĭrossing my fingers that this one is a win.“Growing up in Australia, it’s a different culture altogether. I wish there was a parenting manual on how to be appropriately naked, a level of nudity that will ensure your kids will become comfortable in their own skin. Will it actually be producing the opposite effect? Will my girls become more interested in penises because of the unknown? I wonder if the pendulum tilts strongly one way. My friends watched everything my brothers did, studying them like a species from outer space with goofy smiles plastered on their faces. My girlfriends would come over and be fascinated by my brothers. I wasn’t curious about boys in the same way as my friends who didn’t have brothers or openly naked fathers. When I say, “Daddy needs privacy,” they say, “He’s nakey,” and start laughing hysterically.įor me, growing up in an open household with more males than females, penises, farting, burping, booger picking and flicking, all became passe. I don’t want my daughters to see his penis everyday, but I also don’t want them to think it is taboo. He is adamant about his privacy, and doesn’t want to “scar the girls for life.” I don’t think they’ve ever seen him naked, just with a towel wrapped around his waist. Grant locks our bedroom door when he showers. If I had said, “Yes, I need to exercise more,” which is what I thought, I’d be saying a big stomach is bad. If I had said, “No, it’s not” I’d be dismissing her thoughts and feelings. When Stella said my stomach was big, I immediately went into defense mode, and made a joke but then tried to recover. Me: Things look bigger when you look up at them. That’s where milk comes from to feed babies. What are those round pokey things sticking out called again? Me: They are called breasts and yes, you will. Stella: Will I have boooobs? (pointing at mine and laughing) At least not while they are awake! But I don’t run to cover up when they come in my bedroom either.ĭuring a recent shower with my youngest daughter Stella, our conversation went something like this: I don’t dance naked throughout the house. ![]() I walk around naked in front of our girls. (Gasp!) It was private.įast forward to having two young daughters, Addy, 6 and Stella, 4. They didn’t talk about nudity or get naked in front of one another. My husband, Grant, came from a very different type of family…Christian, conservative and the youngest sibling of a brother and sister. What was okay at one time is not at another time… but how do you know when that time is? As a teenager, I saw it as inappropriate. That was my mother.Īs a young girl, I saw it as beautiful. The funny thing is, my adult brothers don’t recall this at all. I told her in my Valley Girl tone of voice, “None of your kids want to see you practically naked, especially Josh and Ben.” (My brothers). In my teenage years, I can remember my mom walking around wearing a black see-thru negligee with purple velvet flowers, without any underwear on underneath. I couldn’t understand why she didn’t think so. “Can you believe this body?” she’d say distastefully, patting her stomach on more than one occasion, while looking in the mirror. Although I can instantly picture her in white silky granny panties and a strapless bra. My mom never made it a point to get dressed or not get dressed in front of me. But when would it happen? How does it happen? Are you there God, It’s Me Margaret? by Judy Blume answered some of my questions as I got older. I couldn’t believe that one day I’d look like that too. ![]() I remember showering with her at a young age, and being amazed by her womanly body. I knew what a penis was, and other than being fascinated by the fact that boys could stand up to pee, I didn’t really care. The kids are getting older.” I had two brothers so I was familiar with the male body. It was never made into a big deal, but I did take notice.
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